Hats Off

In honor of Memorial Day, I think I’ll share this story my grandfather told me over Thanksgiving.
The two of us were sitting in my favorite place for breakfast, Sunrise Cafe, when my grandfather noticed a young couple sitting a few tables away.
They were enjoying their breakfast and chatting. The guy was wearing a hat on backwards.
“I hate to see people wear hats inside,” my grandfather said.
I didn’t really think much of it until I heard this story.
My grandfather, who I call Deet, flew helicopters for the Air Force during the Vietnam War.
Whenever servicemen had any downtime, they would sometimes go to the bar. The rule was if you were wearing your hat when you came inside, you had to buy everyone a round.
While it may seem like an expensive fashion statement, the rule became a privilege to those who faced life-and-death situations.
One of the guys Deet knew who also flew helicopters had an experience where his helicopter was shot down and the pilot narrowly escaped after ejecting himself and being rescued by another helicopter crew.
The next time he went into the bar, he deliberately put his hat on while inside and declared he would buy everyone a round.
Recalling the story left Deet a little misty – perhaps because of the privilege that came with wearing the hat or perhaps because of all the others who never returned to do so.
I think Deet would join me in saying thank you to all the military men and women who served this country, and to the many more who continue to serve.
I know of several people currently in the military and some who have recently finished their stints.
I personally only know of one who died in war. 2nd Lt. Leonard M. Cowherd III died in Karbala in 2004. I never met him but I know his family well. They are a compassionate, thoughtful and kind family and I’m sure Leonard was as well. On this Memorial Day, I thank Leonard, Deet and all who served.
While we all get to enjoy this holiday with cookouts, reading a book on the beach or spending time with friends and family, we should all remember those this day is meant to honor.
I wish you all a happy and safe holiday.